I love being gay
The 5 best things about being a gay man
Growing up, I spent so much time and energy trying to hide who I was because I bought into mainstream society’s beliefs about what it means to be gay.
I saw myself as less than, delicate, disgusting, defective, and simply not excellent enough. I constantly measured myself up against straight men, and my internal belief system told me I wasn’t adequate.
After many years of working through my own shame around being same-sex attracted and processing my own internalized homophobia, I began to see the beam within me. People always told me I had this light, but I didn’t allow it to shine because shame told me to dim it.
A lot of this work came down to me accepting myself for exactly who I am, and an aspect of that was being a homosexual man.
I now spot being gay as a beautiful present I have been given. The present of being other and finding vigor in that difference. The gift of being able to pull me out of many years of suffering and redeem myself as someone who I am proud of today.
Being gay to me is a small part of who I am. It makes up an aspect of my self-concept, and in certain environments, it may engage a larger role, but it’s just one part of who I am.
However,
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I was lying in bed one darkness watching YouTube videos when I came across a few that were strikingly similar to one another. They were all videos by gay men about things they didn't like about organism gay. It seemed like an odd trend and I had some mixed feelings. On one hand, I don't necessarily love the idea of highlighting the negative parts of being same-sex attracted. On the other hand, however, it's not my place to tell others how to undergo about their experience.
I understand that some LGBTQ people still tackle oppression in America. Some LGBTQ youth still get kicked out of their homes for existence who they are. You hold religious indoctrination that makes some LGBTQ people think there's something wrong with them. Even though same sex marriage is legal in America, some religious folk still want to deny services to gay couples. Some businesses won't bake your wedding cake or do a floral arrangement. In places where Sharia Rule is enforced, homosexuality is a punishable offense (sometimes by death). So I understand that for many people, it's still tough being openly gay.
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I Love Being Gay
I admire being gay. I care for spending twenty minutes moisturizing. I love carrying my phone in my hand like a little coin purse. I love poppers. I love incense. I love drama. I cherish starting phone calls with GIRL and biiiiiiiitch. I love songs that are just one command, like DANCE, spoken over and over again by a signify Australian lady with cunty bangs. I love crossing my legs, tequila sunrises, and when the bartender calls me “baby.”
I adore when you can relate an animal is male lover. I love misting my plants with a spritzer. I love drizzling syrup over dessert. I cherish fresh flowers on a sunny windowsill. I cherish dead flowers in a dusty corner. I cherish the underwear section at Target. I love wigs. I love having a gold-plated Starbucks rewards card but no dentist. I love becoming best friends with girls in line for the bathroom at the club. I devote making out in the street after a spend time. I love when my boxer briefs are longer than my shorts. I love the boots with the fur. I cherish animal print Speedos. I love a waist cinched to the Gods, soggy gel curls. I cherish dips and stunts and twirls. I love when straight people don’t understand what I’m talking about.
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