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Netflix: How did it know I was bi before I did?
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After BBC reporter Ellie Home came out as bisexual, she realised that Netflix already seemed to comprehend. How did that happen?
I realised that I was pansexual in my second year of university, but Big Tech seemed to own worked it out several months before me.
I'd had one long-term boyfriend before then, and always considered myself unbent. To be straightforward, dating wasn't at the top of my agenda.
However, at that time I was watching a lot of Netflix and I was getting more and more recommendations for series with woman-loving woman storylines, or bi characters.
These were TV series that my friends - people of a similar age, with a similar background, and similar streaming histories - were not being recommended, and had never heard of.
One present that stuck out was called You Me Her, about a suburban married couple who welcome a third person into their connection. Full of homosexual storylines and bi characters, it has been described as TV's "first polyromantic comedy".
It wasn't just Netflix. Soon, I had spotted similar recommendations on several
Ask A Bi Dad: I made a mess of my marriage by coming out as lgbtq+ and cheating on my wife. How do I correct things?
I'm a 44-year-old man, and my relationship of 25 years has just ended due to my actions. We share a rare children. About four years ago, after I’d had too many drinks, I told my wife that I was gay. This caused a lot of issues. Last year, she discovered matchmaking app app messages from men on my phone, which proved to be the final straw. I’ve also had sexual encounters with men behind her assist that she doesn't know about.
The thing is, whilst I'm sexually attracted to men, I'm not romantically attracted to them. I romance my partner deeply and cherish our sexual connection. However, I made a grave mistake by exploring my curiosity and cheating on her. I can't imagine being without my partner, and I feel immense guilt and confusion.
Oliver
Hi Oliver,
Thank you so much for reaching out, and I'm truly sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time.
I don't need to tell you that cheating is awful — it's beautiful clear you know that your conduct have had awful consequences for your family. More than that, you’ve broken
Not to be confused with Bi-Veldian.
A bi gay or bi-oriented gay is someone who is both bisexual/biromantic/etc. and gay.
This phrase can be used by men and others who use the split attraction model and are bisexual and homoromantic, homosexual biromantic or those who experience queer or bi tertiary attraction. They have sexual attraction to two or more genders but are only romantically attracted to their own/similar gender(s). They may come across themselves sexually attracted to dissimilar genders, but could never picture themselves in a sexual bond with them, putting more emphasis on their attraction to their own/similar genders, though this varies from person to person. Or they could be romantically attracted to any gender but only sexually attracted to the same/similar gender or are only willing to be with the same/similar gender(s) sexually.
It can also be used by people who identify as both bisexual and gay, either due to modifying attraction (such as abrosexuality), or due being part of a plural system, such as having a different sexuality when fronting, or being in a median system where one member somewhat experiences their headmate(s)' attraction(s).
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Bisexual FAQ
What does bisexual mean?
In simplest terms, a bisexual person is someone who can be attracted to more than one gender; but adults and youth who detect as bisexual sometimes illustrate themselves differently. Many pansexual adults have embraced the definition proposed by longtime bisexual leader, national speaker and award-winning activist Robyn Ochs:
"I call myself bisexual person because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted - romantically and/or sexually - to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the equal time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree."
This broad definition of bisexuality includes people who identify as pansexual, queer, fluid and other labels that suggest potential attraction to more than one gender.
How many people are bisexual?
According to the Williams Institute and the HRC Foundation's own explore, studies suggest that about 50 percent of people who identify as either gay, lesbian or attracted to both genders, identify as bisexual. This makes the bisexual population the single largest collective within the LGBTQ+ community.